me: Hey, can I ask you something?
him: Sure, what's up.
me: Well, I know Father's Day is coming up, and I just wondered how you feel most loved. What I mean is, when you think about Father's Day in your mind, what do you expect the day to look like? What would be a perfect day to you? I can't promise that I'm going to do all of the things that you say, but I think it will help me to understand how you feel loved and appreciated as a dad. Does that make sense?
him: Michelle, that's very nice, but honestly, I just want time with my family. Uninterrupted quality time. You don't have to top something you did last year every time you know, or make me some cute gift. You can if you want, of course, but it's not expected. I just want to sleep in, and spend time with my favorite family. Does that sound ok?
And with a simple two-minute conversation, my stress plummeted to zero. Open communication my friends, open communication. No surprises ruined, no feelings hurt, no expectations unmet. This father's day may just be the best yet, even with no Pinterest project. :)